For each other

Let’s go back to the way our parents lived.

And no, I don’t mean the sufferhead Olympics of manual labour and life without the internet. I’m talking about communal living.

Back when everyone was in everyone’s business. Not to pry, but to protect.

You were never truly alone, because your tribe was there. They’d show up, hold you down, and remind you that you mattered.

The miles travelled to attend weddings, funerals, and birthdays. The sacrifices made just to be present.

The constant checking in, the looking after a child for their parents, cooking together at the backyard kind of love. That spirit of oneness. Let’s get back to that.

But in my generation?

We’ve got people who vanish at the sound of the word “accountability.”

People who ghost you when you need them the most, then return acting like nothing happened.

People who call you “friend” but won’t show up. Not in joy, not in pain. And when you ask why, they say, “It’s not that deep.”

But it is that deep.

Friendship is not just vibes and inshallah. It is responsibility. It is showing up even when it’s not convenient.

If you don't see the need to be present, to be honest, to care, then why are you my friend?

This isn't supposed to be a one way street. It is mutual effort. Mutual love. Mutual presence.

And yes, we need to do better. For each other.

PS: I was so pissed this morning at an online discuss. Because wdym you forgot your close friend's birthday, ignored their message and their call? You didn't apologize or talk about you missing the birthday. Byt you don't think you're wrong instead your friend is the one being unnecessarily annoying? Really? Some of you are badly behaved and don't deserve to have people stand by you.